Monday, September 25, 2006

How to Easily Reach the G-Spot

By: Harry Lloyd

The G-spot, or Grafenberg spot, is certainly the most popular topic, with the penis size, on websites discussing sex issues, male and female health. This spot was named after Ernst Granfeberg, the famous German gynecologist who first described it in 1950, in his paper The Role of Urethra in Female Orgasm. Grafenberg was a German born doctor (Adelebsen 1881 – New York 1957), of Jewish confession. Arrested by the Nazis in 1937, he escaped in 1940 with the help of friends of the International Society of Sexology, and emigrated to California.

Before trying to reach this spot, we must know where it is located. The g-spot is something like a female prostate located between the pubic bone and the cervix on the top side of vagina. The g-spot is a part of the urethral sponge, a tissue playing a great role during arousal : if correctly stimulated, this area can be very pleasurable, and lead to orgasm during sexual intercourse. Note that other women could also feel the urge to urinate when this spot is stimulated.

Indeed, this urethral tissue or sponge is like a cushion against the pubic bone and the vagina wall, surrounding the urethra. Mainly made of erectile tissue, filled with blood during arousal, it has a compressing effect on the urethra, preventing urination during sex. This tissue also contains the Skene’s glands, able to produce the famous female ejaculation (usually a fluid of clear color) men are so curious about. Other scientists think the g-spot is not really a physical spot, but more probably the clitoris deepest nerves passing through the urethral tissue and connecting with the spinal column.

An important point is that the fluid produced by the Skene’s glands during orgasm passes through urethra (as urine does) but must not be considered as urine or as an effect of urinary incontinence. This clear colored fluid is similar to what is produced by the prostate and that is why we can speak about female ejaculation.

The structure of this important tissue also varies during time and after the age of 30, occurring changes make the g-spot easier to reach. This is why women after 30 will be more than probably experiencing the best of their sexual life and pleasures.

But how can men reach this so mysterious spot ? In fact, 3 methods can be applied in order to reach this spot. These methods can be found in sex advices guides on the web.
1.For men having an upward curved penis, the missionary position is the best, because that kind of penis will exert greater pressure on the front wall of the vagina.
2.For men having a downward curved penis, or an uncurved penis, doggy style position is probably more suitable because of the pressure exerted against the front wall by the downward curved penis.
3.With the fingers or the tongue : you must push down on the clitoris and arce the tongue or fingers upwards. Note that fingers or tongue must be at least 1 – 3 inches inside the vagina…since the exact distance greatly varies from a person to another... Good luck.

Science has now answered lots of questions concerning this mysterious female area, but female orgasm is and remains a complex phenomenon wherein g-spot plays an important role.

Harry Lloyd writes articles for Top Sex Guides , a site providing male sexuality advices.

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Female Orgasm During Sexual Intercourse

One of the most common myths about the female orgasm is that women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.

This is definitely not true but it's a myth that has caused us to take women's sexual needs for granted for a long time. This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms.

The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms (other than the g-spot). It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example.

As a result of Freud's determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure.

Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women's right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her.

Another common myth about the female orgasm is that only women fake orgasms.

Even though this book is about female orgasms, I think its important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. About one-fifth of men admitted that they have faked an orgasm with a partner. Their reasons for faking are the same as women's: they don't want their partners to be disappointed.

Orgasms don't always come easily in a partnership. Sure, when we masturbate we can probably get off every time because we know our bodies and we know what works. Our sexual partners have to learn these things over time and, most importantly, with our help.

Again, faking orgasms is not the answer for either sex. It just complicates the issue and prevents both partners from having a truly fulfilling sexual encounter.

Gabrielle Moore is the founder and initiator of She helps men give women a great orgasm every time.

Monday, September 18, 2006

How to Kiss a Woman So She Aches for You

by J. E. Barron

Passionate kisses are love magnets that linger in a woman’s mind. If you want to master the art of kissing a woman, it is vital that you learn how to kiss passionately without making her think it’s just your cue to get her into bed.

Your BEST course of action is to allow your kisses to linger on her mind - a sort of effective reverse psychology that women are powerless against. You can turn the tables and have her begging for more if you first establish a great kissing technique that DOES NOT always lead to the bedroom. Otherwise, she’ll immediately put up her defenses and leave you wondering what went wrong.

Follow these tips - keep your kisses really exciting by being spontaneous and by varying their intensity and duration. Also, be sure not to engage in a marathon kissing session. Initially, you want to pique her desire, not quench it altogether. This technique greatly sparks a woman’s desire and anticipation for you.

Now that you have the game plan down, try some of these techniques for passionately kissing a woman:

·Make some noise! Say something romantic while you’re kissing, whisper or express your pleasure without words by smiling and sighing heavily.

·Place your hands on either side of a woman’s face so that you do not cover her ears and your fingertips reach the back of her neck. Then, slowly pull her toward your lips while softly holding the sides of her head. Gaze into her eyes before planting one on her. Sigh "mmmm" during your kiss while holding her head.

·Place your fingertips lightly over her lips and move toward her ear. Take her ear lobe between your lips and nibble on it while breathing slowly, deeply and deliberately into her ear. Move down to her neck while still covering her lips with your fingertips and then slowly advance toward her lips while breathing onto her skin. When you reach her lips, move your fingertips to the back of her neck and pull her toward you.

·Approach your woman from behind. Place your hands on both of her shoulders, drag her hair across her neck to expose her skin, and kiss the back of her neck while running just your fingertips up and down both of her arms, across her collar bone and over her shoulders. Continue kissing her neck as you move around to face her, then slowly move up toward her lips. Hint: The back of a woman's neck is a sensitive erogenous zone that many men ignore. Pay attention to it and you'll be her super love hero!

·Reach for her hand and raise it to your lips while gazing into her eyes. Softly guide her fingertips back and forth across your mouth. Slightly open your lips and tickle her fingertips with the tip of your tongue. Demonstrate your enjoyment by smiling. Nibble the tips of her fingers. Then place the palm of her hand against your cheek, holding it in place while you move toward her lips for a kiss.

After your kiss – you MUST seal the deal by ending the session and walking away. Yes, walking away! This may sound outrageous, but it WORKS. When you kiss a woman passionately, making her tingle from head to toe, and then smile at her and walk away, you leave her aching for you. She’ll spend the entire day thinking about your next kiss, and this is the powerful position you want to attain.

J. E. Barron is a relationship expert and editor of, the online romance site featuring unique and creative tips and ideas designed to enhance your love life and immediately create the relationship of your dreams. Visit for more great tips on enhancing your intimate relationship.

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

How to Be Irresistible to Women

by Terry Hernon MacDonald

You don’t need a guitar, a good pick-up line, rock-hard abs, or even a full head of hair to make a great impression on a woman. Follow these tips, and she’ll want to hear from you again real soon:

1.Go out with another woman. If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a female friend or your sister with you. Women are often more amenable to talking to men who are with other women. It gives them the feeling that you actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll make small talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can say something along the lines of, "I love your necklace!" and that should do it. After a little back-and-forth, your friend can say, "Oh, how rude of me. This is my friend Andy," and you’re in business.

2.Look women in the eye. It seems elementary, but you’d be surprised at how many guys either undress a woman with their eyes or avoid eye contact altogether. Women love it when you look them in the eye.

3.Don’t try to "buy" her. If you buy her a drink, she is obligated to say thank you and that’s it. If she accepts the drink, the polite thing for her to do would be to spend a little time talking to you, but that’s all. On the other hand, if a woman takes the drink and walks away, let her go. You wouldn’t want spend time with her, anyway. Trust me.

4.Find out her interests. Get her talking about what she’s crazy about, whether it’s David Bowie or the New York Mets. If you don’t get it, you can say something like, "You know, I’m not too familiar with Bowie. What CD would you recommend?" Or, "I’m more into football than baseball. What is it about baseball that you like?" Ask a woman her opinion, and you’ll have her eating out of your hand (we have more in common with guys than you think).

5.Listen more, talk less. Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let her do all the talking, but some guys meet a woman and then never shut up. Don’t try to impress her! Don’t brag about your GPA at Harvard, the Jag in your driveway, or the fact that you’re CEO of a tuna fish conglomerate. You’ll get precisely the kind of woman you don’t want, the one who’s only into you for your achievements and possessions, rather than for who you really are. Instead, ask questions and listen for the answers. Give your opinions. Get to know the woman. Let her get to know you.

6.Be optimistic. In other words, this is no time to discuss how oil prices are going through the roof, what a witch your ex-girlfriend was, or that your parents never gave you enough attention. If you run out of things to talk about, ask her if she’s seen the latest hit at the box office.

7.Be chaste. Do not try to go to bed with a woman right away. Sure, there’s a chance that if you go for it, she will, but if you’re hoping for a lasting relationship, you set up all sorts of weirdness if you "do it" too soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she sleeps with you, she may not respect you in the morning (you didn’t know that, did you?). She’ll figure that you get into bed with every woman you meet, which pretty much rules you out as boyfriend material. (Or she may be the type who thinks you owe her because she slept with you, which makes her really bad girlfriend material.) Save yourself undue angst and get to know a person before you go to bed with her.

8.Make a great exit. If you want to see her again, ask for her number (Preface this with something casual, "Maybe we can get together some time."). Then touch her shoulder (a little restraint is sexier here; don’t try to kiss her) and tell her you’ll be in touch. Then leave. If your friends aren’t ready to go yet, tell her you have to hang out with them. Walk away. The key here is to keep her wanting more.

9.Call her. If you said you were going to call, you can avoid looking desperate by waiting two days, but no longer. A plea on behalf of the female sex: If you’re not interested in a woman, do not—I repeat—do not say you’ll call. Say, "Nice meeting you," and be on your way. Besides, collecting numbers to feed your ego is kind of sad.

10.Treat women as you’d have them treat you. The media have brainwashed us to believe that men come from one planet and women come from another, but we’re all human. Some of the biggest losers in love are women who complain that all men are the same, they all want one thing, and so on. But it’s equally sad when a guy assumes all women are like his mother or his psychopathic ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing success with women if you understand two simple facts: We’re people. We’re more like you than you think.

Terry is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams" and the host of "Romance Talk," an Internet radio show for singles. To listen, go to Please visit Terry's website at

5 Sexual Myths Destructive to Your Relationship

by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

In this era where sex seems to be on the mind of everyone and talked about more openly than ever before, it is surprising that there continues to be a lot of misinformation and misconceptions. These myths perpetuate unhealthy patterns of relating, expectations and satisfaction and have the potential to destroy a relationship.

Don’t allow your relationship to be prey to the following myths:

1. A Good Relationship Shouldn’t Have Any Sex Problems
All couples will probably experience some sexual problems at some point. This does not mean your relationship is over or not a good one. If the problems are not addressed and worked out, then your relationship could be in jeopardy, but the mere existence of problems is not a sign of failure, it’s a normal part of relationships. Your partner’s sexual needs may change over time. Stress and major life changes are an inevitable part of everyone’s life. These kinds of issues can cause change in levels of desire, satisfaction etc. and will require periods of adjustment.

2. Size Matters
This simply is not true. In an attempt to make money, the media continues to keep this destructive myth alive, making men feel inadequate and self-conscious. They set up expectations that are impossible for a man to live up to and make them falsely believe that this is what a woman wants. This is absurd. You do not need a big penis to be an incredible lover and satisfy your woman. Only the first third of a woman’s vagina has nerve endings for feeling, the other two thirds has no feeling, so even a small penis is quite capable of stimulating the first third. What are most important to a woman is what kind of lover you are, what kind of person you are, how you feel about her and how you treat her. Making your woman feel loved, special, cherished, appreciated and desired will make sex great for her.

3. A Woman Should Orgasm with Intercourse Alone
The majority of women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone, regardless of how big the penis is, because it does not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris. Many couples struggle needlessly, believing that one of them is doing something wrong if they are not able to achieve this. Using positions that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse may work for some, such as the woman on top or the riding high missionary. You can also stimulate the clitoris with a finger or a vibrator during intercourse or give your woman her satisfaction by pleasuring her orally or manually.

4. My Partner Should Know How to Pleasure Me Without My Telling Them
Your partner is not a mind reader. Lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in sexual dissatisfaction. Yes, most people know the basics, but everyone has unique sexual needs that only they are aware of. You must teach your partner what it is that you need. Don’t be shy! Be specific and detailed.

5. It Shouldn’t Take Work to Keep Passion Alive
Yes, we would all love to live in the land of fairy tales, but unfortunately it just does not exist! Once again the media is largely responsible for promoting an ideal that just isn’t realistic. Relationships go through cycles and levels of passion will vacillate. In the early stages of love passion is a blazing inferno that can’t be put out and doesn’t require any work, but as the relationship progresses, passion will not stay alive without effort. You must nurture your relationship to keep passion alive.

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a sex advisor/educator and author helping monogamous couples increase intimacy, be better lovers and keep the passion alive. She is also author of the hot new sex guide for couples titled, Smoldering Embers-Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple’s Fire. Subscribe to her FREE Monthly Ezine, Smoldering Embers, and get hot sex tips, techniques and secrets guaranteed to keep the Sizzle in your love life.

10 Sexy Valentine's Day Suggestions to Use on Any Day

by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

*Dress up in a red garter and stocking or a red negligee and heels with a red rose between your teeth and do a sexy strip tease for your

*Send them roses. Go to the flower shop to make the order and give them an enclosed envelope to send with the flowers. In the
envelope leave a loving/naughty message telling them how much you love them or care for them and what delicious things you are going
to do with their body.

*Write them an erotic story detailing all their favorite techniques, positions, and desires. For example if they particularly love oral, then
go into great detail focusing on all the specifics of what you know they love.

*In your Valentine’s Day card, hand write your feelings, telling them how special and important they are. Enclose a sexy message telling
them what is going to happen this evening.

*Make your own Valentine’s card. Take a nice naked, sexy photo of yourself and glue it inside the card with a sexy story or sexy
message of what you would like down to your body.

*Buy your lover a box of chocolates and tell them they must eat them off of your body where you will strategically place them. This will
be incredibly fun and pleasurable for both of you.

*Buy yourself a beautiful piece of lingerie that you know your partner will love and surprise them by serving their dinner while wearing
it. More than likely dinner will be pushed aside till later!

*Give your lover an erotic massage with your hands, lips and tongue, from the tips of their toes to the top of their head.

*Call your lover at work during the day and tell them how hot and wet you are and how you can’t wait until they get home to ravage
their body. Tell them you aren’t wearing any panties or bra and that you are going out shopping. This will be a lovely image to stimulate
them through the day and set the mood for the evening. Actually go through your day without the bra and panties and you will find
yourself feeling very sexy and aroused as well.

*Give your lover a show. Write a little invitation for them telling them to meet you in the bedroom or (whatever room) at a specific time
for a special show for their eyes only. Leave the note on the mirror or with their breakfast or something like that. Be waiting for them in
the designated spot, naked, and then masturbate for them.

These suggestions are sure to put some spark and sizzle in your Valentine’s Day. (Enjoy!)

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed is a writer, educator, therapist/advisor/coach and holistic health consultant specializing in Erotic Communication,
Sexual Intimacy, Soul Satisfying Sex as well as issues of living with chronic illness, chronic pain or disability.
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