Thursday, January 26, 2006

Jack Rabbit Vibrator and Evolution

A snippet from Arianna Huffington’s website about evolution vs. creationism in the bedroom. Today’s New York Times reports on a new book called "The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution," by Dr. Elisabeth A. Lloyd. Her thesis is that the female orgasm is not necessary for reproduction, and thus is not an evolutionary adaptation.

Wouldn’t it be delicious if the female orgasm were the thing that tips the scales in favor of the Intelligent Design crowd? It would make for a great closing argument: "The female orgasm is so complex and strange, it could only have come from God. The reason there is no evolutionary purpose to it is because there is no evolution! God is in the details... and the bedroom. Who needs Darwin when you have the Bible -- and the Jack Rabbit Vibrator. Case closed. Amen."

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

SEX TOY SEX SURVEY

Sex Survey Reveals Kinky Tastes


January 24, 2006
SUMMARY: PleasureMeNow.com survey reveals favorite toys in the bedroom. The research also found popular gift idea for Valentine?s Day.

A recent survey undertaken by PleasureMeNow.com reveals peoples favorite toys in the bedroom. The research also found many Valentine?s may receive a sex toy wrapped in red this Valentine?s Day.

The survey revealed 74% of both women and men would “Love” to receive a sex toy as a gift. Another 26% thought it sounded fun, and no one in the survey found the idea objectionable.

The survey established of those participating in the survey 24% already owned 1 or 2 toys, 56% owned 3-6, 11% owned “Gobs” of toys and 9% don?t currently own a sex toy.

Regarding the question “What is your favorite sex toy?” respondents had a fill-in-the-blank response, not a multiple-choice answer. They wrote in the following choices:
17% Rabbit Vibrator
11% Glass Dildo
10% Vibrator (Non-Specified Type)
8% Love all sex toys
7% Sex Swing
7% Strap On Dildo
6% Bullet Vibrator
5% Dildo
4% Cock Ring & Vibrating Cock Ring
4% Anal plug or bead
3% Cyberskin Sex Toy
20% other toys or none yet

“We were surprised by several of the results,” said Ron Jacks partner at PleasureMeNow.com. “One result that amazed us, even though our survey was taken on our adult toy website, was that everyone found receiving a sex toy as an appealing gift. Another result that raised several eyebrows here was how many straight men indicated their favorite sex toy was not for use on themselves but rather for use on the women in their life. Of the total men surveyed, 16% indicated their favorite toy was using a vibrator on their significant other with another 7% suggesting a glass dildo.”

618 people participated in the survey. 10% of the women and 7% of men described themselves as bisexual, and 4% of people indicated they were gay.

Saturday, January 21, 2006

Use of Sex Toy not Safe While Driving

Have you seen the ad for the sex toy called Auto Suck? It goes like this:

"Enjoy your drive with the ideal mate! Plugs into any car or truck lighter for some hot roadway action. Make sure to keep one hand on the wheel and one eye on the road as the auto suck makes that long commute or road trip much more bearable. *Warning: this unit may cause ejaculation. This may be difficult to explain to your insurance company". Use at your own risk!

Okay, I’m not a prude and I know everyone is entitled to good sex, I understand its our right and I’m all for it, but please...Is it really safe or necessary to use one of these units while driving? I think not!

Look at the distraction problems we already face on the roads everyday. All the fancy billboards and roadside signs that flash or scroll. The idiots who just have to be on their cells phones while driving just to mention a few. Now, throw in a portable sex toy like the Auto Suck and I’m scared to death to be out on the road!

Seriously, and answer honestly, how many of you can keep your eyes open when you are having an orgasm? Come on, it’s like sneezing, you just can’t do it! So lets give this toy to the male driver and hope for the best. Yeah this is just what I want a guy to be doing while driving a huge 20,000 pound, 550 H/P, 13 speed/overdrive tractor trailer. Seat belts and air bags won’t mean anything if you collide with one. Can you imagine the lawsuit implications with one of these toys? The ad actually suggests using it while driving. How stupid are they?

In my opinion your just asking for trouble if you use one of these while driving. If you want to wait until you get to a rest stop or someplace safe to pull off and then hook up with the Auto Suck, fine I’ve got no complaints. To each their own. I suppose used safely it could be considered an "ideal mate". But I just don't understand what the advertisers of this toy were thinking.

In 2004, there were over 6 million motor vehicle crashes in the United States (data for 2005 is not yet available). The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) reported a total of 38,253 fatal crashes. There were 42,636 fatalities in those crashes. Non-fatal crashes totalled a whopping 6,143,000 with over 2.7 million personal injuries reported. There was an additional 4.2 million crashes relatedto property damage.

Given these statistics and the numerous distractions that drivers face everyday I can only hope that if anyone purchases the Auto Suck toy, they have enough intelligence not use it while driving.

Regina Sheridan writes product reviews for Jennas Blog.
http://www.jennastoydepot.blogspot.com/

Thursday, January 19, 2006

The Facts About Romantic Compatibility

Romantic compatibility in a relationship is such an important thing to both couples. There’s no such romantic relationship if you’re not compatible with your mate. You have to be compatible when it comes to certain vulnerable things so to avoid misunderstanding and trouble dealing with one another. Usually, the astrology has something to say and have to guide you and your mate about the romantic compatibility insight through the different sun signs, for you and for your love, or for a certain someone that you’re having an eye on. Of course, you want to know how compatible you are to your mate before having a relationship with her or him, or before settling down.

It is good to know to whom you are compatible with before you enter a relationship. By this, you will know the best and the worst things that might match love. Others say birth compatibility is important so to create a romantic compatibility in a relationship. Good mates are the only child and youngest; the first-born and youngest; the middle child and the youngest. The gender plays a role too. It is possible to everyone to keep the relationships growing and create a romantic compatibility through understanding even there are ups and downs in a relationship. You must feel comfortable in a relationship that you’re in, because it indicates how much at ease you feel with your mate and that how you can tell how romantic compatibility works between you and the other person. Communication is still a good source of building up a romantic compatibility, where it indicates your ability to understand each other and exchange those sweet talks to each other. A good chemistry that binds you and your mate can make a good sense of romantic compatibility, too.

Romantic compatibility is important in a relationship, combined with love and understanding. Through this, it keeps the flame of passion that’s burning in a relationship. Sometimes, teaming up with those incompatible partners can lead to tensions, broken hearts and a lot of misunderstandings in a relationship, and of course, you don’t want a broken relationship that leaves painful scars in our lives. Romantic compatibility tells about the romantic relationship from a variety of angles. It also tells about the nature of your attraction, or how do you relate to each other. Romantic compatibility can tell you too what are the traits you are both compatible with and the specific dynamics of your chemistry together in building up a romantic compatibility.

Astrologers have been using charts to let couples understand and discover their own horoscope and the horoscope of their potential partner. Most compatibility charts can give more information about your partner and that can tell you to whom you are compatible with. It compares your partner’s individual birth information and gives you insight into your relationship. It compares and contrasts the interrelationship of two separate charts; the professional astrologers can reveal the many ways and many levels that the two people relate with each other. The romantic compatibility chart provides a comparison between two people with regards to all the things that affect their ability to harmonize with each other, from relationship personality and lifestyle to sexuality and passion. This is one of the most comprehensive ways that you can find and that will help you to understand on how you should relate romantically to another person, and how you both can better understand and appreciate each other.

Actually, romantic compatibility in a relationship relies to both couples, and not just to what astrology says. If you think you both find each other compatible and that you love each other, for sure, the romantic compatibility slowly will grow between you and your mate. The astrology just guides and gives you some important details that might help you in choosing your potential mate in the future and certain aspects that will help you enhance your personality and building up the romantic compatibility in a relationship.
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Tuesday, January 17, 2006

When In Rome...

ROME (Reuters) - Thinking of buying a TV for the bedroom? Think again -- it could ruin your sex life.

A study by an Italian sexologist has found that couples who have a TV set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don't.

"If there's no television in the bedroom, the frequency (of sexual intercourse) doubles," said Serenella Salomoni whose team of psychologists questioned 523 Italian couples to see what effect television had on their sex lives.

On average, Italians who live without TV in the bedroom have sex twice a week, or eight times a month. This drops to an average of four times a month for those with a TV, the study found.

For the over-50s the effect is even more marked, with the average of seven couplings a month falling to just 1.5 times.

The study found certain programmes are far more likely to impede passion than others. Violent films will put a stop to sexual relations for half of all couples, while reality shows stem passion for a third of couples.

Thursday, January 12, 2006

The Sexual Body Feelings And Erogenous Zones Of Men

There is a widespread misunderstanding by many women, and surprisingly also by many men that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or even only in their penis head. The reason why many men also carry this misconception is probably that boys often are educated to suppress corporeal sensations and to be hard.

Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is relaxed, and the zones are stimulated in a gentle manner. Gentle stimulation of these zones in a relaxed state can give feelings of pleasure as strong as those in the penis, and can even result in some types of strong orgasmic reactions. Here is a survey of various erotic zones in the male body, and how to stimulate the sensations in these zones. You can stimulate yourself at these zones when masturbating, or the your female or gay partner can do the stimulation work.

THE SCROTUM AND THE TESTICLES

The scrotal skin and the content of the scrotum, including the testicles, are sensitive to erotic stimulation. When stimulating these genital parts, take first hold of the scrotum with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. Warming and handling the scrotum gives feelings in the whole genital region. Stimulation of the scrotum also increases the blood circulation and engorgement of all the genital organs around the scrotum. The testicles are best stimulated by gentle rolling movements with your fingers. Also tickle the scrotal skin with your finger tips. A part of the penis is actually hidden partly inside and partly behind the scrotal sack, by palpating with your finger tips between the testicles or at the side under the scrotum; you can massage this part of the penis. A sharp massage with your finger tips gives the most intense sensations to this hidden root of the penis.

THE BREAST NIPPLES AND THEIR SURROUNDINGS

The nipples of a man are important erogenous zones, and a man has tits just as a woman, although the tits of a man are smaller and flatter that those of a woman. Actually a man has all the structures that a woman has in his breasts, but they are not developed to have a milk producing capacity. This means that a man’s breasts have the same erotic capacity as the tits of woman. A man's nipples also have an erective capacity. They rise and get hard upon stimulation. When stimulating a man’s breasts, take hold of the breast with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. To stimulate the nipples, massage gently around the nipples with a finger tip. Also squeeze the nipples with your fingers, varying the intensity from the very gentle nip to some harder pressure.

THE REGION BETWEEN THE PENIS AND THE ANUS

The visible penis is actually a part of a larger body beginning at the prostate region just in front of the anus, and reaches to the tip of the penis. The urethra also goes through this structure. The parts between your legs will engorge when you are sexually exited just as the penis, and when it engorges, the region bulges out between the legs. Upon mechanical stimulation, this area gives intense pleasurable feelings.

You can stimulate this area by squeezing it between your fingers, pressing down against the urethra or massaging up and down along the urethra. You should change between gentle and a little harder handling, as these two manners give rise to different types of feelings.

THE NAVEL AND THE BLADDER REGION

The navel is an erotic point, and so are the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and the penis. This structure contains a groove between the belly muscles. The structures in this groove are very sensuous, the so called linea alba. The naval can be stimulated by sticking a finger into it, and by tickling with your finger deep down in the navel. Also here you should alternate between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder sharper tickling.

This stimulation give sensations that radiate out form the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwards to the tip of your penis, giving a very funny feeling in your penis. The groove between the navel and the penis, you can stimulate by massaging up and down with the tip of your fingers.

THE BUTTOCKS AND ANAL SURROUNDINGS

The inner sides of the buttocks in the natal cleft give rise to deep erotic feelings with a very special intimate valor. Move your fingers up and down between the buttocks from the spine to the opposite end between the legs, and gently massage the inner side of each buttock with your finger tips. You can also concentrate your attention to the region deep inside the cleft very near the anus and tickle these most intimate points with your finger tips.

Further you can stretch each buttock to the side so that the butt cleft opens, and the rectal opening is also stretched. The result of these manipulations is erotic sensations that radiate to the whole pelvic area, flow deep inside you and rise upwards along your spine.

THE ANUS AND THE OUTER RECTUM

The anal region is in many ways the real central of feelings in a man or boy. By stimulating this area in the proper ways, you can create a process that spread waves of intense feelings of joy, pleasure and ecstasy up through the whole body, partly forward to the genitals and belly region, and partly along the spine up to the neck. You best stimulate the rectal opening by very gentle circulatory movements with your finger tips. Alternate between these circulatory movements and the stimulation of the insides of the buttocks.

You can also stick a smeared finger into the anal opening and stimulate by gentle movements in and out. By sticking your finger further inside, you can gently massage the inside walls of the anus. By adding some pressure, your stimulation reaches deep into the tissue around the rectum. All these stimulation give rise to profound feelings radiating to the whole body.

THE DEEP PART OF THE RECTUM

The perhaps most intimate and sensitive zone of a man, is the deep part of the rectum. This zone can be reached by gay intercourse or with a dildo or some other long object. When inserting something in the anus to stimulate this zone, it is necessary to be very cautious so that the intestinal walls are not hurt.

However, this zone is so sensitive that even the gentlest stimulation gives an immense depth of feelings, both of physical and psychological kind. You can stimulate this zone by gently and gradually by inserting a thin smeared dildo, and when fully inserted, very gently move it a little in and out, a little around, or press gently to different sides with the dildo. The more you relax, and the longer you do this stimulation, the deeper and more intense will the feelings grow.

THE PROSTATE:

The prostate lies just in front of the anus and the urethra goes through it. This gland produces much of the viscous fluid in the semen. You can stimulate it from the outside by pressing somewhat firmly with your fingers inward just in front of the anus. There is a deepening in this area, just like a little vagina. Press your finger into this groove and a little forward. You can also stimulate the prostate by inserting your finger into the anus and massage the prostate through the front wall of the anus. The massage releases prostate fluid. Feeling the fluid coming through your urethra and dripping out through you pee-hole, add to the physical excitement. Also the prostate have its own sexual feelings, and prostate massage combined with anal stimulation can induce a form of orgasm that has a much deeper psychological and ecstatic impact than ordinary penile orgasm.


About the Author: From Knut Holt - K-holt2@online.no. Knut Holt is an internet marketer and author with a focus on health items and erotism. Please go here for health information, products to increase sexual pleasure, and natural medicines against many common diseases.----- http://www.abicana.com

Tuesday, January 10, 2006

Virtual Reality Sex Machine for Men

October 2005 The world of cybersex just took a step closer to enjoying virtual reality sex at home. Adult toy maker Doc Johnson just released the Virtual Sex Stroker sex machine with 3D cybersex. This male masturbator toy connects with your computer through the USB port and allows you to have virtual sex with Naughty Nurse Nicci.

Nurse Nicci starts off with a sexy striptease just for you. As her clothes slowly come off, you can tease her and make her hotter and hotter. Once she's fully naked, you choose what sex position you want her in.

The software for this virtual reality sex machine allows you to control sexy Nurse Nicci on your computer screen and enjoy 24 different sex positions with her—including kinkier lesbian and S&M encounters. Thrust in and out of the Virtual Sex Stroker cyberskin realistic vagina masturbator while your online 3D avatar counterpart has his way with sexy Nurse Nicci. He matches your strokes so you feel like you're part of the online action.

This virtual reality sex machine uses Plug and Play technology, making it user-friendly even for novice computer users. The Sex Stroker masturbator is 7 inches long x 2.75 inches wide and made of a life-like realistic skin substance called Cyberskin. The sex machine includes the 3D Interactive Game Software, USB connection cable, game instructions, and information to download additional games.

The system requirements for the Virtual Sex Storker sex machine are: Windows 98/ME/XP or Windows2000, Directx 8.0 or higher (included on disk), Macromedia Flash Player (included on disk), Pentium II, 333 mhz or faster, 68 MB Ram or more, one free USB port, and at least 70MB of free hard disk space.

Virtual Reality Sex Machine

Monday, January 02, 2006

Do Women Really Relate Sex To Dancing?

No matter what, no matter when, no matter who, any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet. He just needs the right broom." That is what the "Date Doctor" said in the movie "Hitch" starring Will Smith. The Date Doctor goes ahead to say "women relate dancing to sex."


Since the movie featured, I have been bombarded with emails asking me if it is true that women relate dancing to sex. I know other people have other opinions, but as for me and my household, we believe that many women judge a man's sex potential by his dance moves. With a few exceptions, music touches women in a very profound and unique way - it stirs their soulfulness. Dance on the other hand unlocks the playful and sensuous side of her personality. And if men only knew what a powerful aphrodisiac dancing is for women, they might not be getting the "I am not in the mood" as often as they do.


Many of my girlfriends and women I have been privileged to work with tell me they could tell what kind of a lover a man would be by the way he danced. They could tell if a man is a player, shy, inhibited or uninhibited, passionate or passive and yes they could even tell if he is a drunk by observing the way he moves his body on the dance floor. And when it comes to dating, these women say they want a man who is interested in more than just eat, work and sleep. They want a man who knows how to communicate his love potential and one who knows how to move that sexual energy through his body. If you've seen Patrick Swayze in "Dirty Dancing" then you know what I am talking about. It is much more than "dancing sexy", it is like the man reaches deep within and then releases that inner being in sensual movement. It is purposeful yet playful. It is relaxed and effortless. Something about his body says "strong and tender, fun and frivolous". It's ...it's...how can I put it? It gives a woman that "jolt" below the navel. And when a woman has tasted the pleasure of dancing in the arms of a good dancer, it is next to impossible to settle for anything less, unless he has some incredibly exciting career in which they can experience unlimited financial freedom together or he is unbelievable in bed or both!


Unfortunately misperceptions depicting dance as being effeminate keeps a lot of men from getting their groove on. Some need a two-drink minimum to get the nerve to get on the floor. And when they do get on the dance floor, their alcohol-aided sense of adventure is a series of exaggerated theatrical gestures that are a torture to watch.


Guys, if you do not have the unlimited cash flow or do not exactly fall into the category of "unbelievable" in bed then a dance class should be your next stop. If you've already got the moves, show off that fancy footwork and I don't mean those Tarzan ape-like gestures. Put some grace into it. If you have not been to the gym lately and have accumulated a little bit of excess or have a really lean slight build, please don't try belly-dancing. Leave that to the co-ed high school dance floor. Unless of course your intention is to attract another man, then by all means, more power to you. But for the man who embraces more of his masculine side, the wrist-turned- up-elbows-against-hips thingy - no, don't do that.


Dances like tango, salsa and ball-room dancing are some of the most passionate and graceful dances around but only good for you if you already have a relationship or have made a strong connection. And remember she has to say yes to "shall we dance" first. To make certain that she will say yes, when you approach her, show her what you got. No, please not that. Keep that for another day, another place and another time. I mean show her your moves. The Ricky Martin-Usher-Omarion sensual dance moves around the groin can get her imagination going in a romantic seductive way. If she's at your wavelength, she'll most likely get the message and smile back.

About the Author
Christine Akiteng is an internationally renown Dating Coach with a unique and fresh outlook to what love is really about and what we can expect from our sexual relations. If you enjoyed reading this article check out Christine's Website: www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com for more: The Sweet Smell Of Sexcess, Your Sexual Style Could Be Hurting Your Relationships, The Best Sex Is Spontaneous Sex!, Sex - Is Yours Waist Up Or Waist Down?

Wickedly Sinful Sex Tips For One And All!

So it's a lazy afternoon with no plans in sight, shop on-line for a new sex toy. Take turns ordering a toy or treat that appeals to you- without any feedback from your lover. Be adventurous and choose something that intrigues or bewilders you. Try not to let each other know the items you've chosen while waiting the few delivery days that stand between you and new found pleasures. When your items arrive in the mail, the objective is to try whatever was bought (unless you really really can't / won't / don't want to). If you're scared of what extremes your partner might go to, set some boundaries beforehand - almost all sex toys cannot be returned.

Want to be a more flexible lover? Rent or buy an instructional yoga tape to enjoy at home, naked, with your lover. Set the lights low and make sure the room is comfortably warm, use incense and candles for a romantic touch. Place yoga mats or towels on the floor and remove all of your clothing. Stretch to your hearts content while admiring your partners pliant body... in the buff!

Create your very own harem! Find a cozy secluded area like a basement, roof, attic, enclosed patio etc. To get in the mood set up a blanket and lot's of pillows comfortable enough to lounge on. Keep the lights dim and use a lantern or candles for some ambiance. Light some incense and play soft relaxing music (Indian sitar music is great). Now the fun part... to complete you're night for two, have a pot of chai tea and some ice cubes set aside on a tray. Take turns orally pleasing each other by alternating the warm sensation of chai tea in your mouth followed by the cooling sensation of the ice. You'll definitely have your partner oohing and aahing.

Make a game of christening one room in your house/apartment per week. Initiate a little hanky panky whether its in the kitchen or living room, on carpet or stairs. Some out of the ordinary places to try are closets, crawl spaces, attics, balconies, apartment stairwells or elevators and even your front porch.

Worship your union in a house of worship! This may take some sly planning and shouldn't be attempted on the busiest religious day of the week (Sunday). Usually churches are left open to the public, finding a private alcove for a sinful tryst however can prove challenging. Of course there are confessionals, just be sure that you're alone. For all you angels out there yearning for lustful immorality, listen to gospel music while engaging in fierce copulation. You can always repent later.


Are you up for a game of monkey see monkey do? This time when you rent a porno, rather then just watching it... ape it. This usually works best in a bedroom where you can be sure of having privacy. Be sure to wear scandalous "porno" clothes (it's hard to pretend you're a super stud wearing the fish print boxers your grandma got you for x-mas). This naughty exercise is a great confidence booster and you are bound to discover new positions or techniques to savor after the show is over.


Get a little kinky! Fetish parties or clubs are a fun way to embrace your naughty side by exploring different sexual themes with like minded hedonists. If you don't want to run into embarrassing encounters with people you know (your dentist, grandma, librarian etc.), wear a mask or a wig, trust me you wont be the only ones. Publicly advertised fetish parties are best bets for first timers as they are usually on the tame side. Clubs advertised in the back of weekly papers are usually a tad more sinful.

Recreate the prom night you never had! Dig out your old taffeta prom dress or blue tux, some year books and old records. Rehash how you spent your prom night and with whom as you go through those moldy yearbooks. If you ended up going dutch then this is your night to recreate the x-rated prom night you always dreamed of. If you want to go all the way, rent a cheesy motel room and giggle all night long.


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The Gift That Makes SPARKS Fly!

If your relationship is starting to lose its passion you may need to make a conscious effort to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and reawaken the passion. Put the spark back and nurture your relationship both in and out of the bedroom with these simple but very powerful gift ideas.

A Gift of Change

One of the things that gets a woman hooked onto the "bad boy" is the desire to change him and the joy that comes with knowing that she's the one WHO DID IT. Guys, listen to her subtle requests. I am sure you've heard one or two things that she thinks would turn the world right side up if you'd only change - and you know deep inside that you'd gladly change if she only stopped bagging you about it. Nothing beats an admission of guilt than a full-blown change. Even something as simple as asking her what it is that she wants you to change to make her feel loved and secure is a step in the right direction.

Ladies, give the man in your life the gift of trusting him to know how and when to take care of himself - and of you. Instead of constantly telling him what he is not doing right, how about complimenting him on what he is doing right. Encourage him to talk about your sexual relationship - trust me, he is dying to - and surprise him by doing less of what he doesn't like ("I am not in the mood") and more of what he likes - whatever that it is. And honey, you know that there are a couple of things you need to change yourself - right?

A Gift of Mystery

Nothing kills a relationship faster than boredom and the same stale stuff day in and day out.

Ladies, romance your man with romantic love letters or poems, read them to him and watch his emotional and sensitive side emerge. Leave random love notes in his coat pockets, briefcase, cellular phone - or bedroom. Leave a small "treasure hunt" on his desk which points to some "BIG" rewards both for his effort and his determination.

Guys serenade her by getting up in the middle of a fully crowded restaurant (not a cheap "all you can eat" type) and declaring your undying love for her in front of a bunch of "I don't need a man to make me happy" man-hating women. Blaring "our song" outside her window in the middle of the night after you've had a nasty fight will get you back in the house quicker than you can say "Halley Berry".

A Gift of Interest

Give your partner the gift of your interest in something that is important to him or her.

Ladies if your man into soccer, baseball, basketball or hockey and you don't know all the field positions or the difference between a "bank shot" and a "blocked shot" or a batter and a battery, take time to educate yourself secretly and next time he is watching his favourite team (you should also know a few names), plug in.

Guys, leave work or business early and come home to watch Oprah or Ellen. Check their websites for the topic of the day, and when she asks you why you are home early, throw in the element of surprise. Better yet, buy a complete series of her talk show and sit by her side through out the series.

Go ahead, just ask him/her a question about what really interests him/her and see the smile light up his or her face.

A Gift of Listening

Men, you may not realize it, but perhaps maybe you are not giving your woman enough attention and enough time to talk - most women want that. Allow your woman to talk about whatever her heart desires, and listen with out trying to fix it or correct her and no blocking out or walking away. Share with her from your heart even if there are feelings that make it difficult. If you must, before you ask to sit down and talk, run around the block or do some other exercise as an external release which calms you down.

Ladies, let your man talk or answer your question with out finishing his sentences for him, interrupting him, trying to interpret what you think he is trying to say, or jumping back and forth from topic to topic. And if he doesn't feel like talking, sit down next to him in silence - I mean silence like in NO talking silence.

Gift of Spontaneous Intimacy

Guys your woman craves to be swept off her feet every now and then. Secretly call a hotel and ask them to arrange a special night of red rose petals everywhere, scented bubble baths, candles and Champaign for just two. If you have kids, arrange for a baby sitter or relative to take care of the kids - and do not tell her. Relive your first night as a couple.

Ladies wake him up with a big "good morning" surprise. In the middle of the day, just lock the door, grab his hand, smile... and lead him to the bedroom. Don't be shy about publicly displaying your affection (with dignity of course) while you're out with him. Make other men jealous - all men secretly long for a girlfriend/wife turned "hooker" especially if he is the ONLY one who ever gets to take the "hooker' home. Mix things up a little by experimenting - be creative, very creative.

A Gift of Trust

Trust takes time and effort, is easily broken and hard to restore.

Ladies, the secrets to trusting your man is being secure in yourself and maintaining realistic expectations. Don't push it, force it, nag him, tug him or try to cut the edges to make it fit. Your man also needs to know he can trust you, it works both ways. Guys, the secret of having your woman trust you is showing her that you are trustworthy and that you trust her in return.

Trust first, but don't ignore the warning signs. If there are just too many inconsistencies for comfort, then communicate them to your man directly, stick to the FACTS - avoid accusations. Simply tell him or her how his/her behavior makes you feel. He/she may be dealing with other issues that have nothing to do with cheating on you with someone else.

A Gift of Self

There is a myth out there that if someone is your soul mate, he or she will instinctively know everything about you. This is simply not true. Most people in relationships - both men and women - would love to give their partners what they want if only they knew what it was. Allow the man or woman in your life to know who you are and invite him or her to open up and share his or her fears and weaknesses knowing that you will still love and respect him or her - with their good and bad.

Finally, wrap your gift with passion and spontaneity. Without passion and spontaneity your relationship will turn into the kind of social convenience many call a relationship or marriage.

About the Author
Christine Akiteng is an internationally renown Dating Coach with a unique and fresh outlook to what love is really about and what we can expect from our sexual relations. See Christine's Website: www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com for more: The Sweet Smell Of Sexcess, Your Sexual Style Could Be Hurting Your Relationships, The Best Sex Is Spontaneous Sex!, Sex - Is Yours Waist Up Or Waist Down?