Monday, July 10, 2006

How Sexuality Has Come To Determine Love and Relationships

Nowadays is very common that sexuality determines the direction where love and relationships are heading. By the time a couple join together they immediately want to fulfill desire.

When sexuality, loneliness, and other selfish feelings play a part in the start up of a relationship, it is very probable that the couple may last together only for a short time, and problems will occur. The problems will stem from habits, words, actions, etc.

These recent years the estimated divorce rate has reached numbers higher than ever. This has motivated the changing of a number of laws, with the focus of reducing divorces while making couples think. In Michigan, the couple must attend marriage counseling before marriage licenses are obtainable and must take STD tests. The Sexual Transmitted Disease test is a measure of protection for the couple, while the counseling session is to determine the purpose of marriage.

Love is more than what many realize. Selfish motivations only break up relationships, since the purpose is to fulfill a want or burning desire. Thus, to obtain a long-lasting relationship elements of love need to fall into place and be in the mind of the couple joining in relationships.

Reviewing the different forms of love can help you to appreciate how it works. When a mother disciplines a child for running into the streets, the mother is dishing out tough love to protect the child from harm. When a father alerts the family that problems are causing harm to the arrangement of marriage, thus instigates an open conversation to resolve the problems. The father is illustrating tough love in an effort to make his commitment stand firm.

Problem solving willingness is rarely in relationships today. When troubles mount up couples often decide separation and/or divorce is the way out. Troubles stemming from financial burdens, adulterous relationships, lack of consideration for the other, and so forth often lead to “I cannot take this anymore,” and one or the other walks out the door. We can see that this type of relationship started out with desire in mind, since long-suffering is non-existing. If the couple started out on solid grounds, when the problems creep in, they would have come to a more productive agreement. Of course, when adultery is the problem we know the person committing the act is merely acting out on his/her desire, thus considering separation and/or divorce is logical.

Abusive relationships would never start in some instances if the mate took the time to investigate the partner's background and take the time to become acquainted with the mate before permitted sexual intimacy.

Thus, setting standards from the onset of any relationship can help you prevent finding love and relationship that leads to the road of separation and/or divorce. When you set standards you are making a statement, thus never letting your standards go below your beliefs is part of the solution to creating a long-lasting relationship.

Today, sexuality plays a large part in love and relationship. Sexuality is part of the elements that makes the relationship work, however it is not the ultimate ingredient to make love last. Thus, giving sexuality its correct place can help you find true love as long as you never forget about all the other ingredients that together build a love that lasts.

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