Greater Intimacy Through Tantric Sex

Ecstasy Through Tantric Sexual Practices

If you are looking for a way to take your sex life to the next level and are willing to put in time and effort, tantric sex practices might be the way to go.
Don't expect to jump right in and have everything be different and amazing right off the bat, but if you take the time to learn new techniques and build your knowledge and skill level, you could be opening yourself up for intense levels of sexual and spiritual ecstasy.

Tantric philosophy is an ancient practice and the belief exists that using these techniques will redirect your orgasms through the entire body, or chakra centers, that will not only bring greater senses of pleasure throughout your body, but will also create better overall health.
In an era of sexual fears, great levels of stress and deeper intimacy avoidance, tantric practices can bring the deepest levels of intimacy, connectedness and joy to a relationship.

What is Tantric Sex?
Tantra is not automatically associated with sex. It came out of India over 6,000 years ago as a rebellion against organized religion. It became a different way of viewing the world. Instead of looking at everything as polar, it looked at everything as something merging, creative…a life lived without boundaries.
Tantra means to expand, to manifest, to show. Tantric sex practices weave together the polarity of the male vs. female creating a whole. Using these practices will prolong sexual activity and will heighten the states of arousal and final pleasure.

If we consciously use our sexual energies, it can help us tap into youth and vitality. This practice can make us healthier human beings physically, spiritually and sexually. According to Christiane Northrup, M.D., the author of “Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom," “Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health."

Beyond sex as a means to and end:
We currently live in a society that views sexuality as recreational; as a means to an end. Tantra views sexuality as something ongoing; as living in the moment. The average woman takes approximately 20 minutes to reach orgasm, whereas the average sexual encounter only last between 10-15 minutes. Uh oh! No wonder we are sexually frustrated!
These techniques can lead to multiple orgasms for both women AND men! I can't tell you how many readers write to me about early ejaculation or simply wanting to last longer. This will help all of my readers last longer and get so much more out of their sexual encounters. Tantra will allow you to more deeply connect with your partner.

How to get started:
Do not focus on the end result. Spend time in the moment getting to know what arouses your partner. Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Do not spend energy trying to have an orgasm, but rather stay in the moment and focus on what feels good.
Take time NOT worrying about the big O, but instead on what creates greater sexual energy and connectedness between you and your partner. Ideally, you will spend several weeks learning these techniques and NOT even engaging in intercourse. I'm telling you: Sting himself, master of music and sexuality, attributes his incredible sex life to this ancient practice!

Set love as a priority:
I know that we all have incredibly busy lives, but unless we are willing to make each other a priority, nothing will change and we will go on unfulfilled in our relationships and our sex lives. Create time at least once a week and at a minimum of an hour that is just about the two of you.
Put some effort into it by creating a space that is conducive to romance. Whether it's with candles, dim lights, music…find a way to encapsulate a romantic setting in your home. It doesn't have to take much effort, but the effort will take you a long way.

Play around with clothing. Maybe go with something that you've never tried before. Find something that creates a sense of sexuality even if it turns out to be nothing at all! Completely naked will often do the trick just fine!

Create and practice deeper levels of intimacy:
Spend time getting to know each other on a different level. Reciprocating massages or bathing each other can be great ways to deepen levels of intimacy. Your focus is on your partner and what feels good to him or her. Think about washing your partner in warm water and how nice that would feel; how erotic it could be for the both of you.
Communicate with each other on a different level. Take time to point out the many ways you adore each other, focusing on all the wonderful things you find in each other that drew you in when you first met, along with all the amazing things you've discovered along the way. It's such an aphrodisiac when someone feels truly valued and loved.

You want to deepen your intimacy skills and that can be done in the ways suggested above, but also through playing music together or reading poetry to each other. Find what works for you through what has meaning to your partner.

The value of the breath:
We tend to take breathing for granted…which is a good thing! But it can also aid us in developing deeper intimacy. Take a moment with your partner where you face each other. Start to pay attention to your breathing.
For best results, sit facing each other looking into the other's eyes. It may be uncomfortable at first, but it will help you to better connect. Take slow breaths in and out. Start to synchronize with your partner's breathing. This helps you to focus on each other and develop a better sense of connection.

The value of erotic touch:
The biggest and first erotic zone we ever experience is our skin. As you touch and explore each other, maintain eye contact but do not worry so much about breathing at this time. We'll get back to that later.
Take time to touch and be touched. Trade back and forth giving each other a chance to fully experience the touch of the other. Listen to your partner and when it is your turn, tell him or her exactly what feels good to you. Be vocal and appreciative of what you like. Ask for more or less pressure…go slower or faster...wetter or dryer…harder or deeper or softer or not-quite-so�far. Build your communication skills along the way. Your partner is not a mind reader.

Start to build a pleasure chest full of items that turn you and your partner on and help you find that pleasurably fulfilling place in each other. Try:

• Kama Sutra Massage Oil, or Kama Sutra Oils of Love


• Blind folds
  
• Hand cuffs
  
• Erotic Books and DVDs
  
• Vibrators

The trick is not in spending a lot of money, but in finding new and different avenues for your sexual exploration and pleasure. This is the time to speak up about what matters to you and get what you want. You are the only person who can tell your partner what feels good and what you like or don't like. Get in touch with the inner you, tap into your self- esteem and SPEAK UP! You deserve to go beyond one orgasm and this article should help you get started.

Better Female Orgasms - Increasing Libido and Female Orgasm Sensitivity

While there has been a focus on male sexuality enhancement over the past ten years or so, women have often been ignored when it came to sexuality research. The focus now seems to be shifting, and women's sexuality is suddenly attracting many researchers that are looking to improve and enhance female's sex lives. Diagnosing female sexual dysfunctions is the job for a professional, but women should try and understand their own sexuality in order to get the most out of their sex life. There are a variety of techniques that work for different women, and today there are also a number of female sexual enhancement products for both increasing libido as well as enhancing female orgasm sensitivity. This article is intended to shed some light on women's sexual enhancement and increasing female orgasms.

Sometimes women can suffer from a sexual dysfunction and they aren't able to enjoy a healthy sex life as they normally should. While some dysfunctions are more serious than others, many problems are not considered to be major and are easy to understand and even correct. Low female libido is a very common complaint amongst middle aged women, and is nothing to be concerned about. Sex drive is fueled by a number of hormones, and if these hormone levels fluctuate so do female emotions. Keeping these female libido hormones in check is the trick to maintaining a healthy sex drive. Some women can even suffer from decreased orgasm sensitivity, which can be very frustrating. Luckily, there are different techniques that can help, and even some cream products for this problem.

Different techniques can often be the key for increasing female orgasm sensitivity. This includes different positions as well as different stimulation techniques for bringing on female orgasms. Every woman is different, and individuals will need to find what works best for them. Most orgasms are stimulated through the clitoris, usually by rubbing, pressing, or using a vibrator against this hyper-sensitive part of the female anatomy. While this usually works for stimulating orgasms in females, others might find that they prefer vaginal stimulation to reach orgasm. Something that should be understood is that vaginal stimulation rarely results in orgasms, and the clitoris is almost always the easiest trigger for a female orgasm.

Beyond different techniques, there are now a number of effective products for female orgasm enhancement and increasing female libido. Although the past couple of decades have brought countless sexual enhancement products for men, it wasn't until the most recent few years that women's products came to the market. Now there are many natural products for increasing female libido, based on herbs and vitamins that are known to settle hormonal fluctuations in women. These products are all based on research from civilizations around the world, and many women are already taking some of the ingredients in these supplements, like Black Cohosh, Vitamins A, B, C, etc. Alternatively, for women suffering from decreased orgasm sensitivity there now topical creams, also completely natural. These new creams are allowing women that were never able to experience orgasms to reach new heights of pleasure. Being based on natural ingredients, these products are medically approved and safe for women of all ages.

Female sexuality problems have become the focus of a new group of researchers. A high percentage of women suffer from decreasing libido, an inability to come to orgasm, or a number of other sexual problems. While there is no simple answer to female sexuality, there are plenty of techniques and even some different products for female sexual enhancement.

Jonathan Matthews is an avid sexual health activist, and encourages a healthy sex life for both women and men. His site, http://www.sexdriveforher.com is considered to be one of the most comprehensive female sexual enhancement websites online.

7 Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed. A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina

My extensive experiences with tantric yoga, ancient sexuality practices, and contemporary western therapeutic paradigms have exposed me to many 'tricks-of-the-trade' when it comes to coming.

In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).

If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.

I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.

THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER

1. Relax and increase your body awareness

There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.

Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.

Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.

2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.

Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.

You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.

Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.

3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.

Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.

Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.

4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.

There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.

This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.

Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.

5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.

As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.

Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.

Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.

6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.

Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.

Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.

7. Stop thinking

Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.

Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!

THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.

Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.

8. Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.

By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.

I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.


Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. She is based in Phoenix and keeps herself busy running workshops and sessions in Europe, North America, Asia, Australia and New Zealand.
Visit http://www.erectileejaculation.com to download free audio files or purchase her e-book on overcoming premature ejaculation.