Friday, June 16, 2006
Pleasuring Her Sexuality – A Woman's Desires and Needs
The uniqueness of every female in the world is an enigma that is difficult to solve.
When it comes to pleasuring her sexuality, there is no one-way to please every woman with one style or approach.
Each woman is different, needing individual attention to her desires and needs, where giving her pleasure becomes an exploration in what makes this one unique person sexually satisfied.
When initiating sexual intercourse with a female, one can engage in pleasing her sexuality several ways.
During a sexual act, couples may change from position to position, at any moment.
Many can sense the act of pleasure when a female expresses herself in ways including moaning or a tight grip.
Missionary Position
One of the most common positions used in pleasuring her sexuality is called the missionary position, where the man is on top of the female, directly penetrating her vagina. The women’s legs are usually open while she is positioned on the bottom.
There is also a side entry missionary position where the woman is on the side, while the man penetrates from behind.
Other missionary positions include:
· The woman on the bottom with her legs tightly closed
· The woman on the bottom with her thighs pressed against her chest
· The woman on the bottom while the man holds her legs in the air.
Woman on Top
Sometimes a woman can suceed in increasing her pleasure when she takes over the top position. When a woman sits on top of a man while facing him, this is called the Cowgirl Sex position. The Reverse Cowgirl is when the woman is facing away from the man when she is sitting on top. Usually, a woman can better control the intensity of the sexual act, as well as her organism, when she is commanding the top position.
Sexual Positions
When pleasuring her sexuality, you should know that there are various sexual positions that feature a playful take on the animal kingdom:
· The Butterfly Position involves a woman lying on her back while the man stands and lifts the female’s pelvis for a more satisfying penetration.
· The Octopus Position deals with a woman resting her legs on the man’s shoulders while she is on the bottom.
· When the woman is on all fours, facing downward, she is prepared for the “Doggy-style” position, where the man enters the woman from behind.
· When the woman lowers her torso in the Doggy Position, she is engaging in what is referred to as the “Froggy” position.
· Pleasuring her sexuality can seem easier when a man enters the woman from above as her legs are spread open, allowing more intense penetration. This position is referred to as either the “Spread-eagle” or “Spider” position.
When you are at home with your sweetie and the mood has set in, there are plenty of household objects available when a man is interested in pleasuring her.
Various pieces of furniture can increase stimulation:
· A man can kneel in front of his woman while she is sitting in a chair.
· A woman could sit on the edge of almost any chair or couch, depending on the height and spread her legs, as the man enters.
· She can also spread over a piece of furniture, such as a table or countertop while a man enters from behind.
There is a certain feeling of naughtiness when two lovers make love in rooms other than the bedroom.
There are endless ways to please one another during an intimate moment.
Sometimes a sensual act could be as simple as watching a woman pleasuring her sexuality in the form of masturbation. It can be a successful turn-on for both parties when either one or both participate.
Author Info:
More sexuality information and FREE exclusive diet and health magazines, are available on our web site: http://www.net-planet.org
When it comes to pleasuring her sexuality, there is no one-way to please every woman with one style or approach.
Each woman is different, needing individual attention to her desires and needs, where giving her pleasure becomes an exploration in what makes this one unique person sexually satisfied.
When initiating sexual intercourse with a female, one can engage in pleasing her sexuality several ways.
During a sexual act, couples may change from position to position, at any moment.
Many can sense the act of pleasure when a female expresses herself in ways including moaning or a tight grip.
Missionary Position
One of the most common positions used in pleasuring her sexuality is called the missionary position, where the man is on top of the female, directly penetrating her vagina. The women’s legs are usually open while she is positioned on the bottom.
There is also a side entry missionary position where the woman is on the side, while the man penetrates from behind.
Other missionary positions include:
· The woman on the bottom with her legs tightly closed
· The woman on the bottom with her thighs pressed against her chest
· The woman on the bottom while the man holds her legs in the air.
Woman on Top
Sometimes a woman can suceed in increasing her pleasure when she takes over the top position. When a woman sits on top of a man while facing him, this is called the Cowgirl Sex position. The Reverse Cowgirl is when the woman is facing away from the man when she is sitting on top. Usually, a woman can better control the intensity of the sexual act, as well as her organism, when she is commanding the top position.
Sexual Positions
When pleasuring her sexuality, you should know that there are various sexual positions that feature a playful take on the animal kingdom:
· The Butterfly Position involves a woman lying on her back while the man stands and lifts the female’s pelvis for a more satisfying penetration.
· The Octopus Position deals with a woman resting her legs on the man’s shoulders while she is on the bottom.
· When the woman is on all fours, facing downward, she is prepared for the “Doggy-style” position, where the man enters the woman from behind.
· When the woman lowers her torso in the Doggy Position, she is engaging in what is referred to as the “Froggy” position.
· Pleasuring her sexuality can seem easier when a man enters the woman from above as her legs are spread open, allowing more intense penetration. This position is referred to as either the “Spread-eagle” or “Spider” position.
When you are at home with your sweetie and the mood has set in, there are plenty of household objects available when a man is interested in pleasuring her.
Various pieces of furniture can increase stimulation:
· A man can kneel in front of his woman while she is sitting in a chair.
· A woman could sit on the edge of almost any chair or couch, depending on the height and spread her legs, as the man enters.
· She can also spread over a piece of furniture, such as a table or countertop while a man enters from behind.
There is a certain feeling of naughtiness when two lovers make love in rooms other than the bedroom.
There are endless ways to please one another during an intimate moment.
Sometimes a sensual act could be as simple as watching a woman pleasuring her sexuality in the form of masturbation. It can be a successful turn-on for both parties when either one or both participate.
Author Info:
More sexuality information and FREE exclusive diet and health magazines, are available on our web site: http://www.net-planet.org
Embracing Your Sexuality: Asking For What You Want
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Thursday, June 01, 2006
The Natural Roots of Sexuality
Recent studies in animal sexuality serve to dispel two common myths: that sex is exclusively about reproduction and that homosexuality is an unnatural sexual preference. It now appears that sex is also about recreation as it frequently occurs out of the mating season. And same-sex copulation and bonding are common in hundreds of species, from bonobo apes to gulls.
Moreover, homosexual couples in the Animal Kingdom are prone to behaviors commonly - and erroneously - attributed only to heterosexuals. The New York Times reported in its February 7, 2004 issue about a couple of gay penguins who are desperately and recurrently seeking to incubate eggs together.
In the same article ("Love that Dare not Squeak its Name"), Bruce Bagemihl, author of the groundbreaking "Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity", defines homosexuality as "any of these behaviors between members of the same sex: long-term bonding, sexual contact, courtship displays or the rearing of young."
Still, that a certain behavior occurs in nature (is "natural") does not render it moral. Infanticide, patricide, suicide, gender bias, and substance abuse - are all to be found in various animal species. It is futile to argue for homosexuality or against it based on zoological observations. Ethics is about surpassing nature - not about emulating it.
The more perplexing question remains: what are the evolutionary and biological advantages of recreational sex and homosexuality? Surely, both entail the waste of scarce resources.
Convoluted explanations, such as the one proffered by Marlene Zuk (homosexuals contribute to the gene pool by nurturing and raising young relatives) defy common sense, experience, and the calculus of evolution. There are no field studies that show conclusively or even indicate that homosexuals tend to raise and nurture their younger relatives more that straights do.
Moreover, the arithmetic of genetics would rule out such a stratagem. If the aim of life is to pass on one's genes from one generation to the next, the homosexual would have been far better off raising his own children (who carry forward half his DNA) - rather than his nephew or niece (with whom he shares merely one quarter of his genetic material.)
What is more, though genetically-predisposed, homosexuality may be partly acquired, the outcome of environment and nurture, rather than nature.
An oft-overlooked fact is that recreational sex and homosexuality have one thing in common: they do not lead to reproduction. Homosexuality may, therefore, be a form of pleasurable sexual play. It may also enhance same-sex bonding and train the young to form cohesive, purposeful groups (the army and the boarding school come to mind).
Furthermore, homosexuality amounts to the culling of 10-15% of the gene pool in each generation. The genetic material of the homosexual is not propagated and is effectively excluded from the big roulette of life. Growers - of anything from cereals to cattle - similarly use random culling to improve their stock. As mathematical models show, such repeated mass removal of DNA from the common brew seems to optimize the species and increase its resilience and efficiency.
It is ironic to realize that homosexuality and other forms of non-reproductive, pleasure-seeking sex may be key evolutionary mechanisms and integral drivers of population dynamics. Reproduction is but one goal among many, equally important, end results. Heterosexuality is but one strategy among a few optimal solutions. Studying biology may yet lead to greater tolerance for the vast repertory of human sexual foibles, preferences, and predilections. Back to nature, in this case, may be forward to civilization.
Sam Vaknin ( samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review, PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101. Until recently, he served as the Economic Advisor to the Government of Macedonia. Visit Sam's Web site at samvak.tripod.com
Moreover, homosexual couples in the Animal Kingdom are prone to behaviors commonly - and erroneously - attributed only to heterosexuals. The New York Times reported in its February 7, 2004 issue about a couple of gay penguins who are desperately and recurrently seeking to incubate eggs together.
In the same article ("Love that Dare not Squeak its Name"), Bruce Bagemihl, author of the groundbreaking "Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity", defines homosexuality as "any of these behaviors between members of the same sex: long-term bonding, sexual contact, courtship displays or the rearing of young."
Still, that a certain behavior occurs in nature (is "natural") does not render it moral. Infanticide, patricide, suicide, gender bias, and substance abuse - are all to be found in various animal species. It is futile to argue for homosexuality or against it based on zoological observations. Ethics is about surpassing nature - not about emulating it.
The more perplexing question remains: what are the evolutionary and biological advantages of recreational sex and homosexuality? Surely, both entail the waste of scarce resources.
Convoluted explanations, such as the one proffered by Marlene Zuk (homosexuals contribute to the gene pool by nurturing and raising young relatives) defy common sense, experience, and the calculus of evolution. There are no field studies that show conclusively or even indicate that homosexuals tend to raise and nurture their younger relatives more that straights do.
Moreover, the arithmetic of genetics would rule out such a stratagem. If the aim of life is to pass on one's genes from one generation to the next, the homosexual would have been far better off raising his own children (who carry forward half his DNA) - rather than his nephew or niece (with whom he shares merely one quarter of his genetic material.)
What is more, though genetically-predisposed, homosexuality may be partly acquired, the outcome of environment and nurture, rather than nature.
An oft-overlooked fact is that recreational sex and homosexuality have one thing in common: they do not lead to reproduction. Homosexuality may, therefore, be a form of pleasurable sexual play. It may also enhance same-sex bonding and train the young to form cohesive, purposeful groups (the army and the boarding school come to mind).
Furthermore, homosexuality amounts to the culling of 10-15% of the gene pool in each generation. The genetic material of the homosexual is not propagated and is effectively excluded from the big roulette of life. Growers - of anything from cereals to cattle - similarly use random culling to improve their stock. As mathematical models show, such repeated mass removal of DNA from the common brew seems to optimize the species and increase its resilience and efficiency.
It is ironic to realize that homosexuality and other forms of non-reproductive, pleasure-seeking sex may be key evolutionary mechanisms and integral drivers of population dynamics. Reproduction is but one goal among many, equally important, end results. Heterosexuality is but one strategy among a few optimal solutions. Studying biology may yet lead to greater tolerance for the vast repertory of human sexual foibles, preferences, and predilections. Back to nature, in this case, may be forward to civilization.
Sam Vaknin ( samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review, PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101. Until recently, he served as the Economic Advisor to the Government of Macedonia. Visit Sam's Web site at samvak.tripod.com
Rate Your Sex Drive & How It Effects Your Relationships
This small questionnaire will only take a few moments. Try to answer the questions as honestly as you can, after all only you have access to the answers. Just make a note of your answers, then calculate your scoring; then you'll find out how your sex drive is effecting your relationships!
Q1. How often do you have sex with your partner?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q2. How often do you have sex with someone other than your partner?
a) everyday. b) 1 or 2 times a week. c) occasionally. d) Never.
Q3. How often do you think about having sex?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q4. How often do you masturbate?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q5. When having sex with your partner, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
Q6. When masturbating, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
Q7. Do you ever role-play when having sex, i.e. dressing up?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
In this segment, mark ALL the answers that apply!
Q8. What events are most likely to turn you on?
a) watching an x-rated movie (with your partner or on your own).
b) watching the Saturday Night premier, with the love scenes.
c) waking up/going to bed next to your partner
d) romantic dinner / evening for the two of you.
Q9. Where have you had sex?
a) in the bedroom
b) all over the house
c) in the garden
d) in a public place
Q10. What fantasies have you fulfilled?
a) yours
b) your partners
c) ones that you saw in an x-rated movie or magazine
d) none
SCORING:
Just tally the all the values beside the answers that you have selected; remember that questions 8, 9 and 10 may have multiple answers.
Q1. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q2. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q3. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q4. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q5. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q6. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q7. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q8. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q9. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q10. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1
INTERPRETING YOUR SCORE:
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 0 and 11.
You have a very low sex drive. This may have a negative effect on your relationships. I know that a healthy relationship is not based on sex, they are based on trust, love, and communication. However intimacy leads to intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. When you are have sexual intimacy with your partner you are laying the paving stones, for a more intimate relationship. You will have to try and loose some of your inhibitions allowing your partner the key, or at least lending him the key more often. You can obtain tutorial books and DVD's on learning how to become more intimate with your partner.
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 12 and 22.
You have a perfectly healthy and normal sex drive. This will have a positive effect on your relationships. Your sexual intimacy will lead to other forms of intimacy with your partner, ultimately taking you to the next level.
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN23 and 33.
You have a high sex drive. This may have a negative effect on any relationships you have. You have to balance all the different aspects of intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non-sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. If you focus on just one, your relationships will struggle to get to next level. you need to understand that there are more to relationships than just sex. What I recommend is more masturbating to cure your urge so that you can focus on balancing intimacy types to try to take you to deeper relationship that is more meaningful. You can use sex toys for more satisfying masturbation!
Educational Sex DVD's, Sex Toys, more...
Q1. How often do you have sex with your partner?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q2. How often do you have sex with someone other than your partner?
a) everyday. b) 1 or 2 times a week. c) occasionally. d) Never.
Q3. How often do you think about having sex?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q4. How often do you masturbate?
a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.
Q5. When having sex with your partner, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
Q6. When masturbating, do you ever use Sex Toys?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
Q7. Do you ever role-play when having sex, i.e. dressing up?
a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I've tried it. d) Never.
In this segment, mark ALL the answers that apply!
Q8. What events are most likely to turn you on?
a) watching an x-rated movie (with your partner or on your own).
b) watching the Saturday Night premier, with the love scenes.
c) waking up/going to bed next to your partner
d) romantic dinner / evening for the two of you.
Q9. Where have you had sex?
a) in the bedroom
b) all over the house
c) in the garden
d) in a public place
Q10. What fantasies have you fulfilled?
a) yours
b) your partners
c) ones that you saw in an x-rated movie or magazine
d) none
SCORING:
Just tally the all the values beside the answers that you have selected; remember that questions 8, 9 and 10 may have multiple answers.
Q1. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q2. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q3. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q4. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q5. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q6. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q7. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0 Q8. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q9. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1 Q10. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1
INTERPRETING YOUR SCORE:
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 0 and 11.
You have a very low sex drive. This may have a negative effect on your relationships. I know that a healthy relationship is not based on sex, they are based on trust, love, and communication. However intimacy leads to intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. When you are have sexual intimacy with your partner you are laying the paving stones, for a more intimate relationship. You will have to try and loose some of your inhibitions allowing your partner the key, or at least lending him the key more often. You can obtain tutorial books and DVD's on learning how to become more intimate with your partner.
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 12 and 22.
You have a perfectly healthy and normal sex drive. This will have a positive effect on your relationships. Your sexual intimacy will lead to other forms of intimacy with your partner, ultimately taking you to the next level.
IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN23 and 33.
You have a high sex drive. This may have a negative effect on any relationships you have. You have to balance all the different aspects of intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non-sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. If you focus on just one, your relationships will struggle to get to next level. you need to understand that there are more to relationships than just sex. What I recommend is more masturbating to cure your urge so that you can focus on balancing intimacy types to try to take you to deeper relationship that is more meaningful. You can use sex toys for more satisfying masturbation!
Educational Sex DVD's, Sex Toys, more...
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