Do you find you're constantly taking a backseat in your passionate life?, Is your partner the one to decide where or how your love making ensues? Why hold back!, Take charge and show some initiative. Within a stable and comfortable relationship one partner will usually be the one who controls, or initiates intimate encounters. Many reasons cause people to to shy away, maybe they feel inadequate or embarrassed or wrong about embracing their sexual prowess. Sometimes it's just easier letting someone else control the situation so you can sit back and enjoy the moment.
If you want to turn the tables and be the initiator then simply tell your partner that you're in charge for the night. There is nothing wrong with asking for what you want, honesty is the best way to improve your sex life. Telling your partner the dirty deeds you want them to partake in, is a great way of getting them all hot and bothered. Set some ground rules, tell them that this time around you're going to give and their role is simply to receive. Gain complete control by tying your partner to the bed and having your way with them. Purchase a fun pair of handcuffs and latch them to the headboard until they're begging to be set free.
Initiate sex in unlikely situations, jump them as soon as they come through the door, or get out of the shower. Start the night off by slowly removing their clothing and remind them that they are at your mercy, by all means keep your own clothes on and gain a small feeling of power in the situation.
Taking the initiative isn't about a battle between the sexes, it's simply about taking turns. Share the power and you're sure to find all sorts of pleasurable responses.
Fresh, fun and flirty advice on dating and relating. Download your free "Rekindle the flame" workshop or sign up for free monthly newsletters! It's all here at Wooing.ca!
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Monday, December 19, 2005
Friday, December 16, 2005
Your Intuition and Romance - Using all Six Senses to Be More Romantic
Call it intuition. Call it ESP. We all have it and can use it to create a lasting romantic relationship. When our sixth sense is in full gear, it’s like one of those timeless moments between two people when nothing else in the world matters and no one else exists. I’m not talking sex, here. I am talking when two people connect on a level beyond the physical. Let me explain. I was married for 16 years to a good man; he was a good father and a good provider. In fact, we seldom had any conflict in our lives. For some women that might be enough. And yet something was missing from our relationship. He just didn’t “get” me. Even after 16+ years of marriage, he didn’t really know what I liked or what made me tick. It was inevitable that we would not stay together forever.
Then I met a man whom I have been with for nearly 14 years. It was like he knew instinctively what I liked without me even telling him. Rarely does a day goes by when one of us doesn’t call each other and talk about something the other was actually thinking or go to the store and buy dinner (just what the other was craving without verbalizing that craving). We tease one another about how keen our sixth sense is at certain times. I find it very romantic. I call it a connection to something more and greater than the physical senses are able to distinguish.
And how about the other five senses? How do we know just which senses we should focus on? If they work to create the kind of romance your partner appreciates, then I believe you have what it takes to increase the power of your sixth sense, far beyond touch, taste, sight, smell and sound. Here are some tips for using all six senses to be more romantic (excerpted from the book Romance on a Budget – www.romanceonabudget.net):
Sight
Look into my Eyes (#11) – When you gaze into each others eyes, everyone else seems to disappear. And looking intensely at one another can send a message to your partner that can lead to better things.
Sound
Listen … (#37) – Do you want to know a secret? Being a good listener is an art. Some people are natural good listeners, others need practice. When you truly listen to one another it demonstrates that you care about what they are saying. It’s most important communication skill in a successful long-term relationship. If you really want to know your partner’s likes and dislikes, wants and desires, perfect the art of listening.
Taste
Hungry for love (#120) – Visit a local fruit or vegetable grove together and pick your own. Take your goodies home and cook up something wonderful, then feed it to each other. MMMMMM… Good!
Smell
The scent of you (#46) Spray your perfume or cologne on the phone most often used by your partner. Or all the phones in the house. This will surely kick the romance meter up a few notches. It’s especially effective if you are going out of town.
Touch
Touch me in the morning (#115) – … in the afternoon, in the evening. Give your partner a massage. Buy some fragrant massage oils and watch the tension turn to pleasure. Take turns.
Intuition
A Hard Day’s Night (#30) – After a hard day’s work, surprise your partner by having a steaming hot bath ready and waiting. Light the bathroom with candles and yummy scents. After bathing and drying your partner off, show him/ her to your candle lit boudoir, where the bed is ready and waiting with satin sheets and rose petals and soft music is playing. This is where you will proceed to rub his/her body down with scented body massage oil. After working up an appetite, have a romantic dinner ready, waiting to be served.
Developing and using all six senses in romance can create a connection that goes deeper – to our souls. Knowing what your partner wants and needs is your sixth sense or intuition at work. When you develop your sixth sense in romance you will instinctively know which of the other five to use when and in which combination to use them.
Heidi Richards is an Author, Professional Speaker, and Business Mentor. She is the owner of Eden Florist & Gift Baskets – http://www.edenflorist.com and the Founder & CEO of the Women’s ECommerce Association, International http://www.WECAI.org – an Internet organization that “Helps Women Do Business on the WEB.” BASIC Membership is Free.
Then I met a man whom I have been with for nearly 14 years. It was like he knew instinctively what I liked without me even telling him. Rarely does a day goes by when one of us doesn’t call each other and talk about something the other was actually thinking or go to the store and buy dinner (just what the other was craving without verbalizing that craving). We tease one another about how keen our sixth sense is at certain times. I find it very romantic. I call it a connection to something more and greater than the physical senses are able to distinguish.
And how about the other five senses? How do we know just which senses we should focus on? If they work to create the kind of romance your partner appreciates, then I believe you have what it takes to increase the power of your sixth sense, far beyond touch, taste, sight, smell and sound. Here are some tips for using all six senses to be more romantic (excerpted from the book Romance on a Budget – www.romanceonabudget.net):
Sight
Look into my Eyes (#11) – When you gaze into each others eyes, everyone else seems to disappear. And looking intensely at one another can send a message to your partner that can lead to better things.
Sound
Listen … (#37) – Do you want to know a secret? Being a good listener is an art. Some people are natural good listeners, others need practice. When you truly listen to one another it demonstrates that you care about what they are saying. It’s most important communication skill in a successful long-term relationship. If you really want to know your partner’s likes and dislikes, wants and desires, perfect the art of listening.
Taste
Hungry for love (#120) – Visit a local fruit or vegetable grove together and pick your own. Take your goodies home and cook up something wonderful, then feed it to each other. MMMMMM… Good!
Smell
The scent of you (#46) Spray your perfume or cologne on the phone most often used by your partner. Or all the phones in the house. This will surely kick the romance meter up a few notches. It’s especially effective if you are going out of town.
Touch
Touch me in the morning (#115) – … in the afternoon, in the evening. Give your partner a massage. Buy some fragrant massage oils and watch the tension turn to pleasure. Take turns.
Intuition
A Hard Day’s Night (#30) – After a hard day’s work, surprise your partner by having a steaming hot bath ready and waiting. Light the bathroom with candles and yummy scents. After bathing and drying your partner off, show him/ her to your candle lit boudoir, where the bed is ready and waiting with satin sheets and rose petals and soft music is playing. This is where you will proceed to rub his/her body down with scented body massage oil. After working up an appetite, have a romantic dinner ready, waiting to be served.
Developing and using all six senses in romance can create a connection that goes deeper – to our souls. Knowing what your partner wants and needs is your sixth sense or intuition at work. When you develop your sixth sense in romance you will instinctively know which of the other five to use when and in which combination to use them.
Heidi Richards is an Author, Professional Speaker, and Business Mentor. She is the owner of Eden Florist & Gift Baskets – http://www.edenflorist.com and the Founder & CEO of the Women’s ECommerce Association, International http://www.WECAI.org – an Internet organization that “Helps Women Do Business on the WEB.” BASIC Membership is Free.
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
G Spot Positions: Three Sex Positions to Hit the G Spot During Sex
I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, its time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.
If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!
So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For the purposes of this article, we're going to assume you know what the g spot is, how to regularly find it, and how your partner likes it stimulated.
Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.
In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.
And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!
Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)
I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.
As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)
Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.
You’ll also get a great workout! : )
Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.
I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes.
Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)
This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.
Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.
However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)
Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.
This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.
We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.
Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)
Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)
Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!
Visit our pages on g spot positions for more information.
Or check out our website and learn to explore your g spot, and enjoy amazing orgasms, and female ejaculation. Authored by a real couple, with practical tips, techniques, and exercises.
http://www.master-your-g-spot.com
If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!
So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For the purposes of this article, we're going to assume you know what the g spot is, how to regularly find it, and how your partner likes it stimulated.
Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.
In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.
And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!
Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)
I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.
As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)
Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.
You’ll also get a great workout! : )
Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.
I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes.
Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)
This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.
Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.
However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)
Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.
This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.
We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.
Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)
Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)
Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!
Visit our pages on g spot positions for more information.
Or check out our website and learn to explore your g spot, and enjoy amazing orgasms, and female ejaculation. Authored by a real couple, with practical tips, techniques, and exercises.
http://www.master-your-g-spot.com
Saturday, December 10, 2005
7 Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed. A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina
My extensive experiences with tantric yoga, ancient sexuality practices, and contemporary western therapeutic paradigms have exposed me to many 'tricks-of-the-trade' when it comes to coming.
In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).
If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.
I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.
THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awareness
There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.
Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.
Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.
Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.
You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.
Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.
3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.
Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.
There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.
This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.
Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.
As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.
Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.
Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.
Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.
Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking
Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.
Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!
THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.
8. Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.
By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.
I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.
Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. HER MISSION is to educate and inspire sexual freedom, so people can open and surrender to self-love and self-awareness and experience full presence and intimate connection. Visit http://www.erectilejaculation.com and sign up for Mukee's "Inspirational Sex Tips" bulletins.
Article Source: www.ArticlesBase.com
In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).
If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.
I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.
THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awareness
There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.
Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.
Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.
Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.
You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.
Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.
3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.
Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.
There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.
This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.
Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.
As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.
Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.
Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.
Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.
Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking
Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.
Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!
THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.
8. Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.
By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.
I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.
Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. HER MISSION is to educate and inspire sexual freedom, so people can open and surrender to self-love and self-awareness and experience full presence and intimate connection. Visit http://www.erectilejaculation.com and sign up for Mukee's "Inspirational Sex Tips" bulletins.
Article Source: www.ArticlesBase.com
7 Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed. A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina
My extensive experiences with tantric yoga, ancient sexuality practices, and contemporary western therapeutic paradigms have exposed me to many 'tricks-of-the-trade' when it comes to coming.
In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).
If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.
I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.
THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awareness
There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.
Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.
Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.
Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.
You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.
Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.
3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.
Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.
There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.
This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.
Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.
As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.
Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.
Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.
Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.
Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking
Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.
Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!
THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.
8. Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.
By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.
I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.
Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. HER MISSION is to educate and inspire sexual freedom, so people can open and surrender to self-love and self-awareness and experience full presence and intimate connection. Visit http://www.erectilejaculation.com and sign up for Mukee's "Inspirational Sex Tips" bulletins.
Article Source: www.ArticlesBase.com
In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).
If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.
I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.
THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awareness
There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.
Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.
Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.
Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.
You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.
Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.
3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.
Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.
There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.
This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.
Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.
As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.
Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.
Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.
Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.
Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking
Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.
Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!
THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.
8. Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.
By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.
I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.
Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. HER MISSION is to educate and inspire sexual freedom, so people can open and surrender to self-love and self-awareness and experience full presence and intimate connection. Visit http://www.erectilejaculation.com and sign up for Mukee's "Inspirational Sex Tips" bulletins.
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Friday, December 09, 2005
Tips For Better Love Making – The Top 5 Erogenous Zones Of A Female
Gentlemen! If you want to get your girl moaning for real instead of faking it, you’re going to have to put a bit of work in. Firstly, a male can achieve orgasm within 2 – 3 minutes when stimulated by another partner. Where as a female can take up to 15 minutes to climax.
If you know for a fact that you can’t keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets face it, if you’re doing that, you’re having sex, not making love) then you are going to have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead.
Now before you panic and freak out, all of this can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.
The top 5 female erogenous zones
The neck
Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.
The ear lobes
Sucking ear lobes isn’t for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you’re there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you’re fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.
The nipples
On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don’t forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn’t grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.
The belly button
Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.
The G Spot
Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.
As a general guide, most female G spots can be found on the roof of the vagina (that’s the side closest to her stomach.). It’s about the size and shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4 inches in.
Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating this area with your tongue or fingers as a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don’t be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be noted that not all females have a G spot, so don’t be alarmed if you both can’t find it. As you have seen there are plenty of other areas of the female body that can be stimulated in the art of love making in order to help her climax.
Doing a combination of all these things will leave her begging for more and you will be a better lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out what works and what doesn’t as everyone is not the same.
As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the stimulation of her whole body and not just simple penetration. Taking the time to show care and attention to her needs will put you so far above any other lovers, she may have had that you may find it tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)
I hope this article helps your love life get back on track and that you become better and more confident at making love and not just having sex. Above all else, if you want to become a better lover, ask your partner what they like and what they want you to do to them. Not only will you help them get their rocks off quicker, you’ll also show that you are thinking about their needs and they in turn will think about yours. This will create a much better experience than if both parties are concentrating on what each can get out of the experience in a very selfish way.
About the Author: Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's writing about relationship problems and checking out new dating sites that appear on the net. To read some of his other articles on men and women, visit his site at http://www.sexy-american-singles.com
If you know for a fact that you can’t keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets face it, if you’re doing that, you’re having sex, not making love) then you are going to have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead.
Now before you panic and freak out, all of this can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.
The top 5 female erogenous zones
The neck
Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.
The ear lobes
Sucking ear lobes isn’t for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you’re there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you’re fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.
The nipples
On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don’t forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn’t grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.
The belly button
Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.
The G Spot
Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.
As a general guide, most female G spots can be found on the roof of the vagina (that’s the side closest to her stomach.). It’s about the size and shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4 inches in.
Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating this area with your tongue or fingers as a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don’t be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be noted that not all females have a G spot, so don’t be alarmed if you both can’t find it. As you have seen there are plenty of other areas of the female body that can be stimulated in the art of love making in order to help her climax.
Doing a combination of all these things will leave her begging for more and you will be a better lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out what works and what doesn’t as everyone is not the same.
As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the stimulation of her whole body and not just simple penetration. Taking the time to show care and attention to her needs will put you so far above any other lovers, she may have had that you may find it tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)
I hope this article helps your love life get back on track and that you become better and more confident at making love and not just having sex. Above all else, if you want to become a better lover, ask your partner what they like and what they want you to do to them. Not only will you help them get their rocks off quicker, you’ll also show that you are thinking about their needs and they in turn will think about yours. This will create a much better experience than if both parties are concentrating on what each can get out of the experience in a very selfish way.
About the Author: Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's writing about relationship problems and checking out new dating sites that appear on the net. To read some of his other articles on men and women, visit his site at http://www.sexy-american-singles.com
Tuesday, December 06, 2005
The Illusive G-Spot and Female Orgasm
The G-spot is a highly erogenous zone inside the vagina. It was discovered in 1950 by the gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg.
For a while not many people actually believed the G-spot existed. Then in 1978 a book called "The G Spot " by Alice K. Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry was published. This confirmed existence of the G-spot. Today sexologists believe every woman has a G-spot.
It is thought that the G-spot is either a bundle of nerves coming from the clitoris or a gland or series of glands that produces lubrication. It is also thought to be analogous to the prostate gland in men. When unstimulated the G-spot is about the size of a bean. When your lover is aroused it becomes more pronounced.
The G-spot is located behind the pubic bone within the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches deep. The important thing to note is that the G-spot responds to pressure, not just touch.
Because the G-spot is close to the bladder stimulating the G-spot may result in a feeling of needing to urinate. This feeling my last anywhere from a few seconds to up to thirty seconds.
Here are some sexual positions that are good for G-spot stimulation:
Doggy Style
This is a good position as the head of the penis is pointed directly at the G-spot.
Lap
While sitting on the edge of a couch or a bed have your lover sit on your lap, facing you. Her legs should be either wrapped around your waist.
Standing with her lying down
Stand facing a bed, desk, or something similar. Have your lover lie down in front of you. Her pelvis should be about one foot lower than yours. Place your lover's feet on your shoulders. Now have her tilt her pelvis so it forms a straight line where your crotches meet. Put your hands underneath her buttocks so you can hold her at that angle.
About the Author: Kevin Davies is author of the "The Eros Hummingbird" eBook. In this eBook you'll learn exactly how to find the G-spot and a new sexual technique that will give your lover the most intense orgasms she has ever had. To buy "The Eros Hummingbird" please visit http://www.eroshummingbird.com.
For a while not many people actually believed the G-spot existed. Then in 1978 a book called "The G Spot " by Alice K. Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry was published. This confirmed existence of the G-spot. Today sexologists believe every woman has a G-spot.
It is thought that the G-spot is either a bundle of nerves coming from the clitoris or a gland or series of glands that produces lubrication. It is also thought to be analogous to the prostate gland in men. When unstimulated the G-spot is about the size of a bean. When your lover is aroused it becomes more pronounced.
The G-spot is located behind the pubic bone within the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches deep. The important thing to note is that the G-spot responds to pressure, not just touch.
Because the G-spot is close to the bladder stimulating the G-spot may result in a feeling of needing to urinate. This feeling my last anywhere from a few seconds to up to thirty seconds.
Here are some sexual positions that are good for G-spot stimulation:
Doggy Style
This is a good position as the head of the penis is pointed directly at the G-spot.
Lap
While sitting on the edge of a couch or a bed have your lover sit on your lap, facing you. Her legs should be either wrapped around your waist.
Standing with her lying down
Stand facing a bed, desk, or something similar. Have your lover lie down in front of you. Her pelvis should be about one foot lower than yours. Place your lover's feet on your shoulders. Now have her tilt her pelvis so it forms a straight line where your crotches meet. Put your hands underneath her buttocks so you can hold her at that angle.
About the Author: Kevin Davies is author of the "The Eros Hummingbird" eBook. In this eBook you'll learn exactly how to find the G-spot and a new sexual technique that will give your lover the most intense orgasms she has ever had. To buy "The Eros Hummingbird" please visit http://www.eroshummingbird.com.
Friday, December 02, 2005
PleasureMeNow.com Announces Holiday Contest
December 1, 2005
PleasureMeNow.com announces Custom Bungee Sex Swing Giveaway. December 15, 2005 this adult sex toy site is giving away a Limited Edition Red Bungee Sex Swing, as seen on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno. This special edition swing is valued at $300.
PleasureMeNow.com announces Custom Bungee Sex Swing Giveaway. December 15, 2005 this adult sex toy site is giving away a Limited Edition Red Bungee Sex Swing, as seen on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno. This special edition swing is valued at $300.
To enter participants fill in a very brief survey on sex toy attitudes. The winner will be randomly selected from the entries and announced on December 15, 2005 in the PleasureMeNow.com Holiday Newsletter. The statistical results of this survey will be posted on the website December 17, 2005.
To enter the contest, participants take a simple survey located at:
Bungee Sex Swing Giveaway and Sex Toy Survey
"We wanted to give our website visitors a chance to win a nice gift for the Holidays," said Ronald Jacks, Managing Partner for PleasureMeNow.com. "We also thought it would be fun for people to learn more about other people?s attitudes about sex toys, so we included the sex toy survey."
The survey includes questions such as: How many sex toys do you own? Would you enjoy receiving an adult toy from your partner for the Holidays?
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